If your partner has a habit of letting go, ask for it instead of whining. Your partner almost always needs patience and prayers.
Marriage should not lead to the death of politeness between a man and a woman. One way to show respect for another person is to be polite to that person.
How do you change? To do this, you humbly accept the commitment, sometimes even if the error is not yours, apologizing in a true artisanal state if necessary, and compromising from time to time.